The intersection of divorce and death in spousal and elder financial abuse, secretive control, misrepresentation, gaslighting and exploitation

The scenario: when one spouse is possessive and controlling, controls the finances and financial information, lies or misrepresents, creates false narratives, gaslights, and/or is secretive – and is not benevolent, honest or fiduciary to the other trusting, innocent, dependent spouse’s wishes, entitlements and rights. The intersection of divorce, spousal and elder abuse, death and probate.

I am now seeing versions of these scenarios in more and more cases and situations both pre-death and post-death of the innocent elder and spouse. Until recently my elder abuse cases had primarily been cases of financial and physical/care abuse, mistreatment, undue influence, fraud and duress, etc., by non-spousal family members, friends or neighbors, and third parties. But that has changed. I am now seeing cases and situations where one spouse is the direct actor, although sometimes influenced or used by others, against the trusting, innocent, dependent spouse and elder victim. I am now seeing versions of the above scenarios in more and more cases and situations both before and after the death of the innocent elder and spouse.

Good people need to be on the lookout, and take actions.

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Best to you,

David Tate, Esq. (and inactive CPA)

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